How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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shubhank sharma
shubhank sharma 5 цагийн өмнө
Amazing man good job. Thanks a lot.
Vortex
Vortex 6 цагийн өмнө
i think its in my dna to not take things seriously and make horrible comedy out of it and i feel personally attacked by that.
Junaidi Ismail
Junaidi Ismail 6 цагийн өмнө
easier said than done.
Harman Kaur
Harman Kaur 7 цагийн өмнө
Thanks
Nishant Raina
Nishant Raina 9 цагийн өмнө
Amazing talk! Awesome conclusion! Lots of respect!
Jessica gray
Jessica gray 11 цагийн өмнө
His teaching relates to my thinking. This is helping a chang in my thinking ,and is helping my high blood pressure.
💣10mrbomber🚀
💣10mrbomber🚀 13 цагийн өмнө
This is so true for me i need to change n be more happy n chill in this sense
Lina A
Lina A 15 цагийн өмнө
I remember there was a class in my middle school that was similar to this I think was named 'Character development.' Just putting it out there if anyone wants to learn more about topics like these.
Chris Mosner
Chris Mosner 15 цагийн өмнө
Majestic and breathtaking. You are so right about being fortunate to live beneath dark skies. Millions around the globe are, sadly, cut off rom the universe in a very real way. This was your finest opening, Richard! That Sony does great things with video at night. Maybe you can now better capture a light painting session so we can see your timings and technique?
Shalini Jain
Shalini Jain 17 цагийн өмнө
Loved the last 20euros example
Deriv Trading Community
Deriv Trading Community 19 цагийн өмнө
We need a Tedx Talks School 😊
Nets 4 Change
Nets 4 Change 20 цагийн өмнө
As a performer, I too wondered why the audience would be quite when I would perform on stage. Like many people here are wondering the same question about this audience. One day I asked a seasoned performer if he knew why the audience wasn’t clapping or being more vocal... he told me that the when a performance is so good, the audience is captivated by the presentation that they don’t think to clap or show emotion. It all makes sense because at the end of every show we would get a standing ovation. Crazy how that works. And in the theater world being quite is good etiquette as well. You literally have to tell the audience they can clap and make noise.
Diegomolinams98
Diegomolinams98 20 цагийн өмнө
Epic ending
Claire Jones
Claire Jones 23 цагийн өмнө
Yesterday someone asked me if I was insecure about my body and I lied to them and told them no I love my body. It definitely needs some work but I love it nonetheless because it is mine and mine only... I felt attacked by the mere question that I cried my eyes out until I fell asleep. Maybe the person was raising this seeing how I'm always so reserved and unconfident ... Or it is about me... The fact that it is hard to look at myself in the mirror, take pictures and post them, wear fashionable clothes like girls my age or even walk down the street without my arms crossed and head pointed at the ground... But you see, these are things you can't tell people... As a girl who grew up without a mother around... there are things that affect the way you view yourself... But this guy brings an interesting idea to my head. It is so simple but hardly ever practiced. I'm not in need of sympathy, I just wanted to share my piece of story and tell you to stay strong.
Zaria Lane
Zaria Lane Өдрийн өмнө
how handsome of a man. thanks for the talk.
Jade Dadiz
Jade Dadiz Өдрийн өмнө
Bars
Tara Henry
Tara Henry Өдрийн өмнө
XXXXX
Nicolas Shalaty
Nicolas Shalaty Өдрийн өмнө
Good stuff✌️
Mauri Nicolas
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Imagine that Productions
Imagine that Productions Өдрийн өмнө
Thank you
Bence Sárközi
Bence Sárközi Өдрийн өмнө
People on the internet especially twitch, twitter, reddit should see this and take his advice. I am fcking tired of banning words on forums and see whining people on meme subreddits that they got offended by something that's not offensive in any way.
chaitanya velamala
chaitanya velamala Өдрийн өмнө
I am just here to see the other side of the story
reganmcneilonacid
reganmcneilonacid Өдрийн өмнө
this is some polyanna naive kind of wishy washy thiinking and quite harming. you can take this personally
Zakir Chowdhory
Zakir Chowdhory Өдрийн өмнө
Just love it, thank you.
Immortal
Immortal Өдрийн өмнө
What if he shits on the 20EUR - who wants it then?:)
M
M Өдрийн өмнө
OMG. The ending was GOLD. A huge thank you Frederick for this much-needed pep talk.
Federico Tarroni
Federico Tarroni Өдрийн өмнө
Hi Frederik, thanks very much!
Lelan Tanphuc
Lelan Tanphuc Өдрийн өмнө
Yang milih allah like yg Mili dajal hirawkan 1:39.........m.
apoorva mahajan
apoorva mahajan 2 өдрийн өмнө
Wow sir that was really really helpful❤️❤️
Brian Tanner
Brian Tanner 2 өдрийн өмнө
I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.
Lo Med
Lo Med 6 цагийн өмнө
So wholesome 😭
Do Ngoc Quynh
Do Ngoc Quynh 2 өдрийн өмнө
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ecefw
ecefw 2 өдрийн өмнө
I was really glad that i'd stumbled on this video and this was my first time that I watched ted talk that I really finished it. At the end of the video it was a very thought-provoking metephor. I even smiled at the end of the video while he said "You will always keep your value."
Devineee Visionary
Devineee Visionary 2 өдрийн өмнө
This guy is a genius
erratic_calm
erratic_calm 2 өдрийн өмнө
I needed this today. Thanks, Google.
Fuji Honjo
Fuji Honjo 2 өдрийн өмнө
In conclusion: $20 is $20
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
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Jenifer Ryan
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Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Amen Sister
Amen Sister 2 өдрийн өмнө
Wonderful public speaking and suberb ending! Will have to use that sometime!!!
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Joseph Mills
Joseph Mills 2 өдрийн өмнө
9:54 my thoughts exactly
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
Whatzapp ✅
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊😊
logan swartz
logan swartz 2 өдрийн өмнө
i showed this to my girlfriend but she took it personally
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 2 өдрийн өмнө
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak 2 өдрийн өмнө
We need this sooo much, because people are becoming soo rude, and not gentle
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak 2 өдрийн өмнө
This must be one of the best videos of the year! Impressive, thx
ALWestcott
ALWestcott 2 өдрийн өмнө
“You will always keep your value”. Wow so powerful!
greg boley
greg boley 2 өдрийн өмнө
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Fidel Livino
Fidel Livino 2 өдрийн өмнө
This is what should be called motivational video. I loved it
Milly Thimaras
Milly Thimaras 2 өдрийн өмнө
Love this
mosomo17
mosomo17 2 өдрийн өмнө
That ending..wow! "Wipes tear from eye"
thuy Pham
thuy Pham 2 өдрийн өмнө
Be honest, open-minded and comunicate is the key of almost social interface problems in some kind of society. (shouldnt generalize things however i am just trying to contrast by using my limited expericence ) :)
Míša Doležalová
Míša Doležalová 2 өдрийн өмнө
Awesome talk!
Enes Misini
Enes Misini 3 өдрийн өмнө
Kevin De Bruyne, you are not a referee but a Manchester city player
The Opinionated Pug
The Opinionated Pug 3 өдрийн өмнө
Beautiful words 💚
george amaxopoulos
george amaxopoulos 3 өдрийн өмнө
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birdieculture
birdieculture 3 өдрийн өмнө
I guess sometimes we take things personally becoz we have this justice mentality, yet we might not know the difference between "true justice" and "perceived justice". In the case of this referee example, he WAS doing the players a "favour" by making sure the game is played according to the rules, rules in which both sides agreed on. But those who want to win without playing by the rules get angry. They simply don't deserve his "favour", or even the right to play. These bad players have a "perceived justice" a.k.a. "u let me win = justice", yet we know "true justice" is when everyone play by the rules fairly and win. So, in conclusion: learn what "true justice" is, don't go and perceive your own version of what justice is, coz "true justice" is / should be appreciated by everyone, even when we are human and sometimes just don't do so.
Ed
Ed 3 өдрийн өмнө
Came here thinking it was Prince Harry talking about dealing with what people are saying about him and Megan.
Critter Tales
Critter Tales 23 цагийн өмнө
I clicked thinking it was Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy in the thumbnail 👀
Mónica Salinas
Mónica Salinas 3 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you so much
D_ MonTequila
D_ MonTequila 3 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you
Jeannee Jean
Jeannee Jean 3 өдрийн өмнө
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Mino Chou
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Shy Guy Mercedes Benz
Shy Guy Mercedes Benz 3 өдрийн өмнө
I'm putting this comment here... for ME
gruenerfux
gruenerfux 3 өдрийн өмнө
How would you measure 50000 thoughts?
Sergio Renteria
Sergio Renteria 3 өдрийн өмнө
I do take things personally and it sucks man fr even I admit it it Destroys me from meeting new people, this vid explain it all thank you
rysiek085
rysiek085 3 өдрийн өмнө
Am I the only one who doesn't love the ending? I thought it was quite a cheap shot tbh. Liked the rest though
Fe Dosumu
Fe Dosumu Өдрийн өмнө
how it's the best part
BLENDABLE
BLENDABLE 3 өдрийн өмнө
I came here to make sure this want the red headed doctor from grey's anatomy
Dee S. Olafsen
Dee S. Olafsen 3 өдрийн өмнө
Good talk. . .the ending was 👌
dynamiczero
dynamiczero 3 өдрийн өмнө
I remember once when I still played soccer as a teenager, I was talking with a teammate since we both were reserve players, and I said something funny that made him laugh. The referee saw that and came, sanctioning my friend because he thought he was laughing at him. Probably the opposite of the speaker in this video
Simi Ahluwalia
Simi Ahluwalia 3 өдрийн өмнө
fantastic!
Aryan Yuvraj
Aryan Yuvraj 3 өдрийн өмнө
Michael Jordan wants to know your location . and mind u sir you r on his list.
Simone Bosman- Zomer
Simone Bosman- Zomer 3 өдрийн өмнө
That's what I did. Taking it personally, then tell my boss I don't like that way. I did it 3 times but at the 3rd time I added that I would go look for another job. I was the first one to speak up ever and now at least she knows. I was unemployed for 3 months (2nd lockdown was also happening) and then I got a job interview in wich I exactly told what I like and don't like. They hired me. 💪. I hope this is, at 46, the beginning of more happiness and confidence. I happen to see this video after the interview so why did I do it the way I did? I did a MyersBriggs personality test and I learned that there are more like me. Knowing that helped me🙂
Silvio M
Silvio M 3 өдрийн өмнө
When you focus on the intention of the other person, you're basically showing empathy for the other person, right?
Ria Esf
Ria Esf 2 өдрийн өмнө
you can show empathy towards others without necessarily allowing their behaviour to affect you.
isipisi
isipisi 4 өдрийн өмнө
thank you so much
Eko Onyi
Eko Onyi 4 өдрийн өмнө
Only 20e per match ? I dont believe it 🤣
Shan Howard
Shan Howard 4 өдрийн өмнө
My ego does not approve this message.
Captain Fruit
Captain Fruit 4 өдрийн өмнө
I was really really impressed... Thank you more than what I can explain. You talked warmly and pleasantly, and explained easily and simply. I imagine that your coin-two-strategies will help me a lot. You are the one of the most touching speechers in my life.
guzel dayz
guzel dayz 4 өдрийн өмнө
Well done.
Ярослав Немирович
Ярослав Немирович 4 өдрийн өмнө
Interestingly enough, I came to using this strat without even realizing it while working as technical support. I sometimes deal with people that are upset about recent changes or about the fact that something broke and they want to blame IT services as a whole and they tell it to me but I've realized - it's not about me. It wasn't me who broke their computer, so why should I feel bad about it? That allowed me to focus on fixing the issues and resulted in much better customer service. Thank you for putting this strategy into words, much appreciated
Gerard Ligonde
Gerard Ligonde 4 өдрийн өмнө
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Mmili Lo
Mmili Lo 4 өдрийн өмнө
Awww his speech was so cute!
FauneTV
FauneTV 4 өдрийн өмнө
place SPANISH translator please!!
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole 4 өдрийн өмнө
Bienvenidos a Bankrupcy.
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole 4 өдрийн өмнө
My B money grows once I plant’s H.E.R first tree. Not marijuana. THC. or Meth.
Ger Lo
Ger Lo 4 өдрийн өмнө
I needed this.
The Comment
The Comment 4 өдрийн өмнө
Stop trying to seek validation from people that don’t f wit you
AbdullaDoo
AbdullaDoo 4 өдрийн өмнө
Awesome. Greetings from Brazil
Lucyyy
Lucyyy 4 өдрийн өмнө
Learned more from this than my therapist.
Super Sai
Super Sai 4 өдрийн өмнө
Me and Micahel Jordan disliked this video.
John Henderson
John Henderson 3 өдрийн өмнө
Hahahahaha, good one.
Daniel Young
Daniel Young 4 өдрийн өмнө
Did anybody @ Michael Jordan yet?
Roby Fischer
Roby Fischer 4 өдрийн өмнө
Michael Jordan seeing that video :
Keilie Velasquez
Keilie Velasquez 4 өдрийн өмнө
Best Ted talk I’ve ever seen so far !
Roni Hossain
Roni Hossain 4 өдрийн өмнө
WoW..... Its great presentation sir🙏🙏😍😍
Cont Fazza 《Main》
Cont Fazza 《Main》 4 өдрийн өмнө
Great Performance.
Siddhant Bista Chettri
Siddhant Bista Chettri 4 өдрийн өмнө
Never knew Kevin De bruyne gave ted talks
Arya Danih Lesmana
Arya Danih Lesmana 4 өдрийн өмнө
This is what I need right now, youtube algorithm is such a mystery
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak 2 өдрийн өмнө
Me too 🙏
Jaeda Davis
Jaeda Davis 4 өдрийн өмнө
This was a great watch. I recommend.
Ridmi Perera
Ridmi Perera 4 өдрийн өмнө
what if they don't understand my feelings or care about my situation even if i didn't blame them ?
Harsh
Harsh 5 өдрийн өмнө
Dam lines after 16:15 took my ❤️
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 5 өдрийн өмнө
Hi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Erik Aston
Erik Aston 5 өдрийн өмнө
great speaker, seems like a good dude.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 5 өдрийн өмнө
Hi Erik, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Sreekala Vijayarudran
Sreekala Vijayarudran 5 өдрийн өмнө
I heard it on loop twice just to soak this wisdom .. I so need to get this right , Thanku 😇😇
Mariska D
Mariska D 5 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you. Everyone needs this knowledge.
من الصفر
من الصفر 5 өдрийн өмнө
Great Talk
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 5 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
coktail mazaltov
coktail mazaltov 5 өдрийн өмнө
Is there anybody in the comments to confirm (with a link possibly) the fact about the 50k thought and the 10k neg. Tought? Thanks
Caleb The Ragdoll
Caleb The Ragdoll 5 өдрийн өмнө
The ending argument got me.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 5 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.
Nor Al
Nor Al 5 өдрийн өмнө
مر من هنا من صلى على رسول الله
Saiki Kusuo
Saiki Kusuo 5 өдрийн өмнө
I watch this video when i take something personally.
Saiki Kusuo
Saiki Kusuo 4 өдрийн өмнө
@Frederik Imbo Thank you too. I'll do my best.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 5 өдрийн өмнө
Hi Saiki, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
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